Sep 19, 2023
“And to the degree that the individual maintains a show before others that he himself does not believe, he can come to experience a special kind of alienation from self and a special kind of wariness of others.” - Erving Goffman
Many of us have dreamt of being actors, but the truth of the matter is we are all performers. The world is our stage, and we all have roles to play. We perform in different settings.
We are all actors spending most of our time preparing for our outward performance, longing to be accepted that we neglect what is truly important - our backstage, our own selves, and the narrative we tell ourselves.
We are more than a social setting. There must be a balance between our performance with/for others and for ourselves. Everyone has a unique backstage. We need to know and lead what is going on backstage as it affects our performance.
This is what today’s episode is all about. Dr. Ray Sylvester and I urge you to spend two percent of your day listening and learning how you can intentionally live better.
If you want to know more about your backstage and front stage, then click the link to our previous episode Backstage - Front Stage You.
Be your own best friend now.
Highlights:
⚡️ Our performance is affected by 3 key elements - setting, appearance, and manner.
⚡️ There are things with symbolic articulation that others may not know about.
⚡️ We become disciples of the world and spend time working in settings we do not control because we try to be accepted.
🔥 Manage your backstage:
- Stop to step back and observe the experience of being you.
- Learn to be at peace with yourself, and accept yourself.
- Be your own best friend, know, and do what is best for yourself.
- Have the discipline.
- Intentionally create a space and environment for your own self.
- Be with people who support you.
- Meditate, write a journal, exercise.
Important stories:
🎯 4:30 Becoming aware of my narrative.
🎯 6:21 The importance of managing your backstage.
🎯 9:41 How I handle my backstage now that my wife has passed.
🎯 15:21 The commonality in most people’s homes - prioritizing the front stage.
🎯 18:41 Balancing the front stage by creating your backstage setting.
🎯 20:39 A film on faith.
Send us a message and tell us what is your biggest takeaway about this episode. 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
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